An ideal man is full of
dreams and aspiration to fulfill his career mission. He has a great dreams and a
sustainable pathway for reaching his goals. However, I wonder why because only
few individuals who have great dreams fulfill it, why? This is because many good
dreams of individuals are dislodge by some concurrent factors which are man
closet enemy of realizing his goals.
Setting goals in life
seems easy to everyone but how many people reaching the peak of their goals?
The answer seems so easy as it is only few individuals that reaches their goals
as a result of impediment impose on individuals goals which may be by any of
the following:
Friends
A friend can either
make you or mare you. Hence, majority of people that surround you as a friend
are not really your friend as most of these respective individuals are
“objective seekers” i.e. who gets what? Most of these people are not interested
in your success and they will never support your ideas and mission that can
better your circumstances. Most of these respective individuals do have interest
in your success nor failure but your ability to answer to their needs and objective.
Things you can use to identify them includes
1. They
will never see anything good in what you
are doing
2. They
are always demanding rather than supportive
3. They
want to know every steps you are taken but hide theirs from you
4. They
will always reject your offer for assistance but instead focus on what they can get from you
5. They
hardly say yes to everything you share with them but always no without no
reasons
6. They
hardly bring prospects and opportunities to you but instead problems and
discussion that draw you away from your dreams
7. They
stay away and far when you have issues, challenges barriers but resurface when
they need something from you
8. They
derive pleasure in sympathizing with you rather than celebrating with you
9. They
always turn down your perceived good idea and give you alternatives
10. At
the point of need ,they will disappear and resurface when you do not necessarily need them even when they manage
to stay they tends to confuse you
Hence, these are few characteristics of friends you
should avoid if you need to realize your goals in life. Although, absolutely,
you need people to hang around you as friends but ensure you choose wisely
because”
good friends are like diamond and gold which are very rear to see around” .
More of issues related to friendship will be discuss in my subsequent post.
Watch out!!!
Pessimists
These are negative bad wishers. They are people with
so much negativity. They will never see anything good in what you are doing or
issues you brought forward to them.
“They are always ready for negative response to invalidate your observable,
testable and verifiable ideas and believe to discourage you from taken a step
toward your goals”. They tend to discourage you and make
you see negative implication of things instead of encouraging and building your
confidence with believe that nothing is impossible.
They will always offer you advice and counsel that
will take you away from your dreams with so many pretenses, passion and love so
much that you can ever imagine it. They will always share their negative
experience and that of others to discourage you from taken certain decision in
alliance with your believes. They hardly encourage you on good ideas but
ordinarily they will offer you pessimistic ideology that contradicts your own
success ideology. If they are not successful, so they wish for you if they are,
they do not want you to.
However, this category of individuals can be among
your friends, colleagues, family, associate, counselors, partners, spouse,
parents and even you. Hence, if you notice someone close to you with some of
these pessimistic observable features then disassociate from such
association,union,relationship and links such that you will not trade your
goals for pessimistic ideology.
Relatives
Your relatives are your first contact and your
pointer to success or failures in life. If you are from successful family,
serious minded individuals that enjoy the support of his stand a chance to
succeed faster vice versa. However, majority of your relatives are neither
happy nor interested in your success which might be as a result of Ego,
rivalry, jealousy, hatred, supremacy, faults, law of karma, curse, family
history and hurt etc
Personally, if you have struggled to succeed in life
then trace your steps and that of your family, I believe you will have issues.
Problems from relatives may come in various ways amidst spiritual, economic,
social and other fundamental issues is deterrent to ones goals and aspiration.
In most cases, if you need to succeed in life, you
need good and excellent spiritual, economic, social and fundamental abilities
to withstand multifarious challenges that can constitute a barrier to your
goals.
The barrier
may arise from intra or inter egotism, rivalry, jealousy, hatred, dictatorship
and supremacy, tradition and ancestral curse, law of karma, family history and
ancestral antecedents. The most important thing is for you to identify the
source of your problem and fix it!
Guilt
Fundamentally, guilt implies the unhappy
feelings caused by knowing or thinking that you have done something wrong. Guilt
has to do with bringing to fore action or decision taken in the past or present
which do not align with one mind conviction and believes. “One thing that I
want you to believe in life is that, you can’t all the time satisfy your will
and still fulfills the needs of life”.
It is not a doubt that things cannot all the time be
in equilibrium. All the same, one must learn to commit error(s), learn from it,
make amendment or restitution and move on. “It is a known fact that one way or the other in life, we are
all guilty of one wrong or the other, the most important thing is to correct
the wrong and move on with life”. Guilt is all about
bringing the past errors to the moment, keeping this in your sub conscious mind
will not allow you to move forward but instead constitute barrier for you
reaching your goals. My advice is that avoids wrong doing, then if you are
guilty of any wrong doing, fix it and move on. Forget your past mistake and
focus on future to come.
Fear
This is one of the greatest enemies of success and
man from realizing his goals. Fear is a seed which produce failure accompany
with frustration. Fear can erupt from lack of confidence, incompetence,
laziness, pessimistic ideology adoption, false counsel; self believes
ideology, poor preparation, experience
However, “fear will paralyze your ideas, cripple your dreams and expose
you to impossibilities”. Fears deter you from taken forward
thinking decision that can push you towards you goals. Fear can create a
barrier between you and your goals and if not deny it can put one at crossroad,
state of confusion and loss of career focus. Fear brings no good than to kill
your dreams.
Whatever what you have in mind to do, give it a
trial instead of embracing too much caution that can hamper you future goals.
It is a normal thing that, you will seems some how careful in taken some kind
of decision but the most important thing is that this decision must be taken to
move your career to the next level regardless of the risk accompany but despite
the risks life must move on therefore you need to get rid of fear to take live
changing decisions!
Fear is nothing than a blockage and a barrier
between you and your career goals attainment. The most important thing you need
to do is to train and build your confidence, modify your competence, be more
hardworking and versatile, avoid pessimistic ideology, only accept genuine
counsel, increase your experience and above all always be in preparatory mood
Separate yourself from fear and follow your heart
deserving decision!
Society
Society refers to where you live and operate. The
environments where you reside have great impact in your life. In fact, you are
as successful as your environment! Although, this statement is relative because
this can only happen in an organize society where their provisions that support
peoples dreams and aspiration. It is good to note that it is not all society
that is good in terms of availability of infrastructure that supports dreams
and peoples aspiration. The most important thing is for your to study your
society to ascertain whether such society support your dreams and aspiration
Many people fail in life cum career as a result of
the society where they reside. This occur in a society where by infrastructure
needed for career and business advancement seems not in existence or nor
available. This might be in terms of non availability of resource for
development such education, social security, lack of employment availability,
corruption, insecurity, political instability, lack of public utilities, poor
financial security, etc
In many societies, there is no adequate provision of
some of key element needed by citizens to realize their career goals. However,
in some society where these key infrastructures are not available there is
bound to be abortion of dreams and sabotage of career objective. Despite all
odds, the most important thing is to find a way to manage all situations and
make things work for one despite the societal disadvantage. No matter how bad a
society is there is always a way out to all serious and success minded
individuals.
Look beyond the societal challenges around you and
turn all hurdles to career and business prospects. There is no society that
does not have it problem that means there is no problem free society. So,
believe strongly in yourself and determine to face all hurdles to succeed. In
fact, “where there is no problem, there is no prospect”.
Therefore, look around in the society where you live, identify any of the
problems you can fix, fix the problems and see yourself realizing your goals
and aspiration!
In summary, I wish you all the best as you take note
of some of the issues raised within the context of this article!
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